I find, oddly, that I'm less willing to discuss than I expected to be. I will nevertheless make the attempt.
Your first point is a commonly-used and, to my mind, deeply flawed analogy. Being black is not a choice. While I suspect it's true that people do not choose to have homosexual urges, any more than most people choose to have any sexual urges, everyone has the choice to act on, or refrain from acting on, such urges. I am specifically heterosexual, though not strongly so; I have chosen, and continue to choose, to remain celibate, and in the unlikely event that I thought it warranted I could choose to have sexual relations with another man. All of these options are open to me, just as they are open to anyone else, regardless of which set of urges they may have.
You appear to discount the possibility of love independent of sexual desire. It is my experience that love is not restrained in such a way. I certainly love my father, my brothers, and so on. Even outside my family, I love several people, both men and women, after whom I do not lust.
I admit that my choice of words was intemperate, and I apologize.
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Date: 2009-11-19 04:48 am (UTC)Your first point is a commonly-used and, to my mind, deeply flawed analogy. Being black is not a choice. While I suspect it's true that people do not choose to have homosexual urges, any more than most people choose to have any sexual urges, everyone has the choice to act on, or refrain from acting on, such urges. I am specifically heterosexual, though not strongly so; I have chosen, and continue to choose, to remain celibate, and in the unlikely event that I thought it warranted I could choose to have sexual relations with another man. All of these options are open to me, just as they are open to anyone else, regardless of which set of urges they may have.
You appear to discount the possibility of love independent of sexual desire. It is my experience that love is not restrained in such a way. I certainly love my father, my brothers, and so on. Even outside my family, I love several people, both men and women, after whom I do not lust.
I admit that my choice of words was intemperate, and I apologize.